How you love, and why exactly that way

Attachment styles

Thirty statements and about eight minutes. At the end I'll show which of the four attachment styles is closest to how you live in close relationships.

Attachment theory says: how we love as adults largely echoes how we were loved as children. This isn't a verdict. It's a pattern you can recognize and gradually reshape. Two scales sit at the core: how anxious closeness feels to you, and how much you tend to step back from it. Their intersections make four styles.

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All four styles

The test is based on Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory. It's a tool for self-understanding, not a diagnosis. Attachment style is not fixed for life and changes in relationships and in work on yourself.